I’m the kind of person who would rather get my hopes up really high and watch them get dashed to pieces than wisely keep my expectations at bay and hope they are exceeded. This quality has made me a needy and theatrical friend, but has given me a spectacularly dramatic emotional life.
We found that, upon exposure to sexist humor, men higher in sexism discriminated against women by allocating larger funding cuts to a women’s organization than they did to other organizations.
We also found that, in the presence of sexist humor, participants believed the other participants would approve of the funding cuts to women’s organizations. We believe this shows that humorous disparagement creates the perception of a shared standard of tolerance of discrimination that may guide behavior when people believe others feel the same way.
The research indicates that people should be aware of the prevalence of disparaging humor in popular culture, and that the guise of benign amusement or “it’s just a joke” gives it the potential to be a powerful and widespread force that can legitimize prejudice in our society.
Thomas E. Ford, professor of psychology at Western Carolina University (via baebees)
My guess? Does not just apply to sexism, but also to racism, xenophobia, etc.
I am a lover and have not found my thing to love. That is a big point if you know enough to realize what I mean. It makes my destruction inevitable, you see. There are few who understand that.
If you’ve ever been homesick, or felt exiled from all the things and people that once defined you, you’ll know how important welcoming words and friendly smiles can be.
Maybe a friend is someone who wants your updates. Even if they’re boring. Or sad. Or annoyingly cutesy. A friend says “Sign me up for your boring crap, yes indeed”–because he likes you anyways. He’ll tolerate your junk.
Nobody can avoid falling in love. They might want to deny it, but friendship is probably the most common form of love.
In young children’s movies, romantic love is constructed as a special and incredibly powerful domain of life that is separate from same-gender friendship and other relationships. While same-gender friendships are fun or funny, heterosexual love is portrayed as powerful. For example, falling in love can break a spell (Beauty and the Beast), cause one to give up her identity (The Little Mermaid), be so special that it is off-limits even to a powerful genie (Aladdin’s genie cannot make people fall in love), or lead children to disobey a parent (all of these and Pocahontas).
Karen A. Martin, from Normalizing Heterosexuality: Mothers’ Assumptions, Talk, and Strategy with Young Children (2009)
(via feministdisney)
Contrast this maybe to the magical girl genre…
There is a sadness at the back of life which some people do not attempt to mitigate.
The realest people don’t have a lot of friends.
secretive dreams 